Girl’s Night Out Remix

What an exciting way to end our year with Beyond the Curves. . .

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What an exciting year for Beyond the Curves! And, what an awesome group of ladies to end our year with.

On Saturday, December 12, 2015… we had 15 women gathered for FUN (some shown above in photo), LAUGHTER AND TOGETHERNESS! And, I think we certainly accomplished that.

We had a great Girl Chat session with Ms. Victoria Curry, great laughs, good eats and everyone completed their own Vision Board.

Often times we say; “New Year, New Me” but in order to actually make your new year a success you have to plan for your success. In order to have this success that you wish for, you have to put in work!

An AMAZING TIME, with some amazing women and I can’t wait for us to gather again!

 

Enjoy the abundant life you so much deserve.

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Day 7 of 7 Days to Having A Winning Mindset

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Day 7

“Willingness” Trumps Ability

Too often, we establish a business model that worked at one time, then insist on it remaining the same. “My business worked well for 10 years. Entrepreneurs have to be stubborn in some ways in order to have the grit to keep pushing through the tough times. However, it’s also important to be big enough to know when it’s time to be flexible and adapt to a different environment.

CHANGE. The good ole word. You have to be willing to change.

Change = Growth = Leadership

What does it take for a leader to recognize they have to change? The answer is COURAGE. It is the ability to stare yourself in the eye and admit that you must make changes within yourself, if you are to inspire your people.

Think of it this way: The one person who you have the most control over is the one person you must change, and by changing that one person and letting it be seen will begin to change an entire organization and culture.

As simple as it sounds, it isn’t, because LEADING OURSELVES is the toughest leadership challenge there is.

If you conquer that challenge, you will reap the rewards and the return.

1. Have you learned how to influence yourself?

2. Have you learned self-control, self-empowerment, and self-determination during this 7 day challenge?

3. Is there anything that can stop you from looking in mirror and changing YOURSELF?

4. On a scale from 1 – 10, how much do you feel you have the winning mindset now?

5. Have you discovered things about yourself?

6. Have you discovered things about the people, environments, and habits in your life?

7. Would you recommend other people take this e-course?

Well come over to these Instagram pages and let us know!
@wewinmovement
@lifecoachcena
@nyalaphillipsIt has been a honor to serve you in this e-course, and we hope you had as many “a-ha” moments as we did in the making of it!

Here’s to the best you possible!

Enjoy the abundant life you so much deserve.

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THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

I can’t thank my supporters enough. I appreciate each and everyone of you! Putting your personal life out for everyone to see, can be hard to do. Please continue to support and share my journey with others! And, I hope and pray that I can inspire someone during my #GetFit Journey.

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Motivational #QOD6

We have to remember that the key to successfully EMPOWERING/HELPING someone, that YOU have to be EMPOWERED and healthy enough to do so.

So, remember that there is nothing wrong with saying; “NO” In order to be a better you and help someone else be a better you… there will be times where you have to take time out for self.

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How to Empower Yourself!

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em·pow·er

əmˈpou(ə)r/
verb
 make (someone) stronger and more confident, especially in controlling their life and claiming their rights.
         synonyms:                         emancipate, unshackle, set-free, liberate
No one is born feeling self-empowered. Confidence is learned. EVERYONE has fears and insecurities. But, some create a confident façade.
You CAN empower yourself, with patience and determination. It can take a while but you can start today to inch your way to becoming self-empowered and break any People Pleasing Habits you might have.
  1. Repeat Affirmations: Affirm that you can do what you want, repeatedly, until it sticks. When you have an important meeting to attend or phone call to make, before you leave or call repeat, “I know what I’m doing.” or “I will make a great impression” or “It will all work out for me.” The more you say an affirmation, the more it will sink in and become true for you. Repeat a positive one until you believe it! Create your own affirmation.
  2. Build Self-Appreciation: Self-esteem that’s based on external achievements doesn’t last! Take inventory of your good qualities and allow those to shine bright. Often what you hate blinds you to your great attributes. Become aware of yours by looking for them (ask loved ones for suggestions) and writing them down just to impress yourself.
  3. No One is Perfect: Accept that no one, including you, is perfect or completely secure. Stop holding yourself to higher standards than others. Striving to be perfect disempowers you. If you wait for perfection to feel good about yourself it will never happen. Since perfection is impossible, you’ll always be going after it and feeling low for not getting it. REPEAT THIS AND REMEMBER IT: “I accept myself for my imperfections.” Embrace yourself for who you are and if you’re battling with your body images, remember that; “I’m More Than My Curves”.
  4. Take Responsibility: Take responsibility for your thoughts. It’s YOUR choice to accept criticism from others as YOUR perception of who you are. Allowing criticism from others to take over your thoughts always reflects in your behavior. You can either let the criticism consume your life or ignore the damn thang!

    Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

  5. Kindness: Always consciously kinder to YOU! The more you do for you, the better you’ll feel. With each act of kindness, the better you will make yourself feel. It helps you focus on you and believe that you deserve good. Give yourself a break when you’re tired. Take a nap! Take a bubble bath! Get a massage! Buy that pair of shoes you’ve wanted, or that dress you saw in Macy’s. Self-kindness will blossom into self-love from which self-empowerment will grow. You deserve to be treated with kindness!
  6. Good Posture: That’s easy to fake! Standing tall is a great habit. Straightening your stance feels better physically. I initially developed good posture while working out at the gym and while walking to avoid pains and any discomfort. And, I felt more confident by standing tall, arching my shoulders and holding my head high. Your stance (swag & ‘tude) makes a statement. Set the tone for the people’s perception of you. Good Posture makes you look and feel more powerful!

    Helen Keller said, “Never bend your head. Hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye.”

  7. Pep Talks: Give them to yourself! Affirm in a mirror that you’re ENOUGH. Recite your best qualities to yourself. Support YOU as you would support others. When you have doubt, repeat “You can do it” until you calm down.
    Tell yourself how awesome you are. It’s always best to take a positive approach.
  8. Stop Negative Self-Talk: Stop that “I can’t lose weight,” “People won’t listen to what I have to day,” “they won’t support my Scopes,” etc. Send those negative affirmations straight to hell. Pay attention to the self-defeating thoughts you have. Try being POSITIVE ALWAYS! It makes a huge difference in your spirit.
    Talk to yourself like you would to your best friend, not someone you don’t like.
  9. Support: Create an awesome support circle. Partner with someone who’s also trying to improve. Talk daily and make one another accountable. Call when you’re having a bad day. We benefit from helping one another. Be open to unwarranted pep talks and advice or self help.
  10. Let Go: Rid yourself of negative people. We absorb other people’s negativity. Avoid toxic people! If you must keep one in your life, limit the time you spend with them.

ALWAYS Speak with Conviction!

Remember, always EMPOWER YOURSELF FIRST! Otherwise, you won’t be able to help or empower others.

We Are More Than Our Curves

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Motivational #QOD5

There are many definitions of KINDNESS in the dictionary, but it all leads back to the same definition. Let’s all start with kindness towards one another.

kind·ness

ˈkīn(d)nəs/ (noun)
the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate.
synonyms: kindliness, kindheartedness, warmheartedness, affection, warmth,gentleness, concern, care

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Empowering Other Women

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Women’s Empowerment starts with how we TREAT other women.

I found this quote after doing some research and reading; “There’s a special place in hell for women that don’t help other women.” – Madeleine Albright

NOW, I PERSONALLY DON’T HAVE SUCH A HARSH STANCE ON WOMEN NOT HELPING WOMEN.

Yes, we have International Women’s DAY in March every year. But, we need to support, empower, support and love each other EVERYDAY!

“The empowered woman is powerful beyond measure and beautiful beyond description.”
– Steve Maraboli

Well, I wanted to share 11 Ways to Empower Other Women

  1. Empower Yourself: The first step to empowering others is to strive to empower yourself. I once read an article with the words, “get what you need so you can help others get what they need”, I agree 1000%.
  2. Value Diversity and Advocate Cultural Understanding: Learning to respect the differences between us; we build understanding of one another.
  3. Accept ALL Women: Regardless of body type, your religion, sexual preference, or even fashion sense, we are all women and we all need to stick together. You are not just empowering the women like you. You should be empowering all women to follow their dreams, no matter what their dreams are.
  4. Start At An Early Age: We have to instill a sense of empowerment in your daughters, nieces, cousins, god daughters, granddaughters, etc. Let them know early on that they can do anything they set their minds to. Having these qualities instilled in our daughters can help us create a new generation of women who will stop at nothing to achieve their dreams.
  5. Speak UP & BE HEARD: This is the number one thing to do out of all of the ways to empower women. If you see a woman who is being mistreated, say something! Don’t let these things just pass by. Every time that a woman is belittled, it impacts each and every one of us. By saying something, you are letting the world know that empowering women is a not something to be taken lightly.
  6. Become a Mentor: We all have heard of organizations like, Big Brothers Big Sisters, where a professional can mentor a young child. Girl Scouts. You can even form your own group. Well, as women, we can also be mentors to other women. Are you a woman who runs a successful business? Why not share with a woman, who is in the start-up phase, your experiences and advice. Are you a well-established blogger? Why not offer to teach a new blogger the ways of social media. Of course, mentor means supporting another for free. So, if you do offer to mentor someone; do not expect anything more than appreciation in return.
  7. Celebrate Women’s Achievements: I cringe when a woman has accomplished something and those around react in one of two ways: 1) speak negative about the woman or 2) ignore it.  An example of is like this: A woman receives an award for something she accomplished and instead of focusing on what she did great, everyone talks about her weight, her lifestyle, her shoes. . . you get the what I’m saying? It is even more shameful when those who are the loudest are other women. We need to learn to celebrate and focus on one another’s achievements without tearing down each other because of personal opinion. Hey, truth told, you do not have to like someone to congratulate them, walk away and say no more.
  8. Compliment Each Other (IT’S OK!): Going along with watching what we say, take the time to compliment those around you. Women feel way more empowered when they have more confidence. That little boost of confidence you get when you receive a compliment might be just what you need to feel more confident. When we raise each other up, we are empowering each other to reach our full potential.
  9. Invest in Women Businesses: Another great thing about supporting women business owners; many are mothers who are the sole providers for their children.
  10. Be SUPPORTIVE: Sometimes, being supportive requires nothing more than being there. Being a shoulder to lean on when a friend is down, listening to your daughter’s problem (though which nail polish to wear is far from a life changing moment), and calling your cousin to see how her new job is going.
  11. Spread Encouragement: Something as easy as a friendly smile. Actually, it is more like a verbal smile. When you meet a woman, who for example is a police officer, firefighter or military personnel, why not tell her you appreciate the work she does. Or as a business owner tell an employee what a good job she is doing — or even another business owner.

“A girl should be two things: who and what she wants.”
― Coco Chanel

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What’s On Your Plate? #GetFit

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Often times we don’t take notice to what we are putting in our bodies. Since, starting my #GetFit Life Journey I try to take pictures of every meal that I eat throughout the day.

People say; “OMG! Why?” For TWO REASONS on why I do what I do. Because #1. I want to remember the moment; especially if it was amazing food. #2. So that I can hold myself accountable for what’s on my plate. We have to hold ourselves, for something as important as living a healthier lifestyle.

If I didn’t do so well, I could always go back to my pictures and see exactly what I did incorrectly and make any necessary changes that would make a difference for the next time I got on the scale (don’t be afraid of the scale, I’ll talk about that in another post soon).

There are many things that we like and want to eat, but NOT necessary what we should eat. On that special day, when you want a taste of soda or that piece of cake. 🙂

So, here are a few things that I consume (we) should try to consume more of in our daily menu and eating habits. Things such as (be sure to try something new ONCE A WEEK):

FRUIT: ALL kinds, just be sure to eat in moderation because fruits have natural sugar… some more than others.

VEGGIES:  green leafs (Spinach, Collard Greens (NO PORK), kale, broccoli, squash, carrots, and many other veggie options out there to try AT LEAST ONCE!

GRAINS: Brown Rice, Quinoa, Wheat Pasta, Veggie Pasta, wheat Bread, Sandwich Thins, Wraps and many more options in all grocery stores.

BEVERAGES: WATER, WATER, WATER, Green Tea (hot or cold), Crystal Light, Tonic Water (regular or with flavor) and all of these options are very REFRESHING and low in fat and calories.

NOW, it’s your turn! What’s in YOUR PLATE and what does it look like?

which one is your plate?

We have to start thinking of better food options. I am not saying that MY #GetFit Journey has been easy! Oh hell NO! But, because this is something that I know want and I am sick and I tired– I’m going to get it done! So JOIN ME!

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I hope that I can and will inspire just one person and my hard work will have been all worth the sweat and tears.

A few yummy bites from last week and this week so far, were things like: Jamaican Brown Stew Chicken, Oatmeal, Watermelon, Hot Tea, Curry Chicken, Broccoli, Chicken Tacos, Chicken or Turkey Wraps, Veggie burger w/ turkey bacon and the works and Guacamole and Chips (I always have a FUN, FILLING AND EXCITING MENU).

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My #GetFit Journey Continues

Hello Dolls & Gents!!!

As, I continue my #GetFit journey… I try to mix up things and not get bored. Since, I am easily bored I try to do something new everyday.

So, I have been walking and I am making great strides to increase my distance and keep up a steady pace. So, in an effort to shake things up… I ordered a jump rope two weeks ago and I broke it out yesterday. IT WAS HILARIOUS! And, considering that I have jumped rope since God knows how long. LOL 🙂

Well, with my Mom behind the camera and my determination — I just went for it. I will be getting back on the rope later this week. Just have to be easy on your joints when doing rigorous exercises.

Well, here’s a little clip of me in action on yesterday!!!

Watch ME Jump Rope 🙂